Sounds like you & I are writing for the same audience and/or on the same wavelength: I've been writing thriller-fantasies, set in the city, with a gay protagonist. I'm told the 'ghey card' (as it's been monikered by friends after one particularly obtuse critique) is not as much of an issue in fantasy, but it's still a question of how to market it, what agents to query, etc. I agree it'd be awesome to have more insight into the industry's take on LBGTQ genre/crossgenre--especially when it's not strictly fantasy (predominantly action) but has a strong dose of literary (where character development is the crux of the story).